"Unwritten Rules"

This is too random! Wrote it a while ago nd its in my opinion entirely! Feel free to say whatever...I just think life is too short for some things! :)

Seriously where do these rules come from I wonder…”As my friend thou shall not date my ex” I have heard this so many times I can honestly say it thoroughly amuses me now. Ahah! Don’t people see how illogical it is? Before anyone attacks me and says “Ehn its because it has never happened to you that’s why you are mouthing off!” I can proudly say (yes proudly because im alive now contrary to what everyone believes) that it has.
Now listen, Im not even going to say it doesn’t hurt because it does…but so does the mosquito bite you are going to get tomorrow or the next disappointment.
In this small world we live in, placing “No. Plate” on someone’s head makes no sense!
Ok look at a group of friends that go out together and meet the same people (which is almost always the case) and you in that manner create a network which is bound to grow especially in this small Lagos! Almost everyone would know everyone. Now in my age group hormones are raging on a daily…yes we are on our grind, paper chasing, dreaming big (I am proud of us “80’s babies by the way) but almost everyone is looking for that “hook-ups” LoL. Whether it’s for the mean time, to love and to cherish now and forever, or for the next 4 hours after a night of serious raving!
Anyway, the point is that dating within your social circle is almost inevitable (this does not apply to those that patronize the internet dating sites…though you may get a few surprises there. I mean you don’t know how many of your friends are as *sad/desperate as you are. LoL) So with this inevitability of interlocking social circles and raging hormones and all other factors existing in this day and age…you want to restrict human beings from liking and getting involved with people they know? I don’t know about you but I don’t think its worth it. I think the introduction of these complexities only leads to more drama that could have been avoided in the first place…as we all know! LoL
You want an example? Fine! Girl meets boy, they like each other, they have a good thing going on and then it collapses. Boy while with girl knew girl’s friend and developed feelings for her and girls friend being human thinks about it and sees that boy isn’t so bad. However, this unwritten rule about not dating a friends ex makes her question her allegiances and where they lie. She knows she already likes him so this is a lost cause and her trying to ignore it makes no sense because the suppression makes the feelings stronger…and isn’t it so weird how it is when this starts that she sees Boy a lot more than before…*sigh* life is well funny. But anyway guys being guys would not let up on the feelings they have developed and would find every reason to see Girls friend and convince her that its no big deal if they get together. Girl hears gist about this and gets suspicious, stops talking to friend and confronts boy (which I can never get over… Pshyco’s!!! I HAIL YOU) and thereby riles herself up and creates and awkward situation (its long abi?? You see what I mean?) Boy and Girls friend start sneaking around and make their hooking up look like a bigger deal than it actually is and it creates a “scandal” (I like using such words..LoL) which is interesting for the viewers but not a nice experience for those involved...people are called names, characters are slaughtered, hearts are clawed at…NOT WORTH IT!!!

Why cant we all just get along? Like I said earlier I know it hurts…deal with it like it could be you in your friends shoes…nd they wud fit perfectly!
O yes don’t doubt it!!!

Ps. Pleeeeeeease! If this offends u in anyway or whatever feel free to air ur views but this in NO WAY implies that cuz these are my beliefs i wud go out of my way to have a friends boyfriend/ex or whatever. So dont let ur deranged mind take u down that road...Im a decent girlfriend nd those who know this know this very well :)

This i wrote a while ago....wanted to modify it just now but i ges i wud just write somn else and leave this unadulterated! Hu i had in mind when i wrote this i really cant remember...thats if there was anyone to be honest but yea...i really feel this way when i think about my future Mr. Me!! He hu shall see me nd even in my irregularities love me...and want 2 do everything to make me Mrs. Him! Cuz i would do same and much more... God wiling


He would recognise me and I him
By that light that God would not let dim
We would understand each other and complement each other
Have more than deep loving feelings for each other
I have been thinking about him for so long
Day in and day out...not in a way that is wrong
His smile, his sweet voice, his words of encouragement
The way I would always be given acknowledgement
How he wisely talks to me andturns to God at all times
How with me he is always able to read between the lines
The way we would love each other
And know that Gods way and not ours is better
The way he would be my rock and I his
The way I know when it comes to him I aim to please
How he appreciates the little that I do
How when I’m feeling low he says “My baby I love you but most importantly Jesus loves you too”
The way our kids think he is the best
How they understand that “yes from us....daddy expects nothing less"
How my opinions matter in decisions that need to be made
How I respect his personal decisions even though my hopes may be re-slated
How I respect and treat him like the king I know God has made him to be
How I can be humble before him and know that he will always love me
God bless you baby, I love you and I know my heart beats strongly for you daily
You are my husband, my friend, my God sent, my shining star
I pray for you every day for only God knows where and who you are

The obvious....

"I'm already used to the way things are. Before you came i was thinking about how much time i had wasted in the same place, while my friends had moved on, and either went bankrupt or did better than they had before. It made me very depressed. Now i can see that it hasn't been too bad. The shop is exactly the size i always wanted it to be. I don't want to change anything because i don't know how to deal with change. I'm used to the way i am."
This i read in a fictional book and many books have described the way i feel about something or some sort of personality i have but this is just too apt about what has been most important to me of recent now that i am out in the world...i know this applies to a lot of people but it makes a lot of stuff clear to me...and what it is i need to do....Wow i knew i was scared but I'm also content in my unhappiness! Not content in every sense of the word but i am used to it...and that would not get me anywhere.
My friend gave me this book...The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho...wow!First of all God would shall bless her mightily! She knew i needed it. From the beginning i knew i would discover something about me...or find something i have always known in black and white which is exactly what happened!
I don't want to say all what the book is about but i strongly suggest that if u have no idea of why u r where u r but u dream nd in ur dreams alone is where u find ur happiness then you need to read this. No jokes! God is at its centre as well...its not religious but it talks about purpose and i thank God for the mind he has given me cuz contrary to what i usually think (which is that i a not very bright) i have been able to analyse this book very well. Lets just say the introduction helps but i have opened my eyes tho.
i have talent and i have dreams in which these talents are realised and brought about to bless loads of people nd where i am known for it/the but im yet to realise any of this. I am the queen of excuses...my excuses seem so important as well or valid as the case may be which is ever so often! But im getting a stirring now. I think God has put me in an atmosphere all of a sudden where im beginning to believe...be less afraid...im getting happier...i am alone thi i know...i feel lonely everyday and its unfortunate that most times its where i should feel the most love but i have to overcome that. And i will...i just have to never forget....and always always want my dreams to come true...I am grateful!

Blah Blah Bleehhhh

We all say life sux...till its cut short...then that sux more! Jus heard someone died this morning. Young guy about my age was robbed and then shot...im trying not to cry! Yea i dunno him but thing is 2 days ago i heard a cousin of mine died in Haiti on the day of the earthquake. I was stunned! I hvnt cried yet but this news about the other guy is kinda triggerin emotions i hav suppressed! I mean i felt for Haiti but i ddnt know it was tht close to home! Yea incase ur wonderng she was workin in the UN there so she wasnt some jobless Nigerian lookn 4 *greener pastures* or anything like that! We werent close as such but...she was sooo nice nd she just got married nd just had 2 kids men! Like serrsli wtf!! Nd then tht lunatic tht calls herself the first lady of my country is still alive! Infact almost all the idiots in power in my country are still alive while someone with such a spirit dies! They shud b very afraid 4 death cometh around the corner if it has picked up tht good soul alredi. Woiii!
Nd then th foolish robbers that took this young chaps life...i really want 2 get into their minds and see wht it is they see tht makes them take wht is someone else's property by force nd then kill them. Cuz i cant lie to begin to fathom it mite give me a head ache.
Human beings are just wonderful i tell u...nd these murderers will actually try nd justify their actions. Thts the scary bit...Well from my side of the fence i see the world facing the sun nd they may b facing the dark clouds (not to say im a saint or anything...far from infact) but meeeen!I want a gun but its not to kill people...wll innocent ppl at least! Who am i to judge anyway im sure someone under the sun wudnt mind takin me out...LoL

Am i done venting...i think so...i am now goin 2 unlock the happy thots in my head nd make good use of them (yes someone has bn kissed of recent...and i pronounce the kissing awesome!)So i shall relive that moment...nd lock these ones up...if i can...