Lamentations according to a frustrated 22 year old living at home :D

Marriage Marriage FLIPPIN MARRIAGE!!! It comes with my age apparently..."so who is your boyfriend? when do you plan on getting married?" Very popular these days....KMT! I swear there was a time this topic excited me and i wanted to get married asap! I had thought of everything...number of kids...how i would please my husbadn and try and think of everyone else first at all times...(i even wrote a very sweet poem about it on facebook) and it used to make me smile and have goosebumps all over my body and i would smile sheepishly (random-do sheep smile at all? What is sheepish about a smile? Another thing Nigerians came up with?)

Now i can honestly say i am not as inspired by the institution as i once was... i dont believe in it as much anymore. From second hand experience i think i can honestly say it creates miserable people....that infect the rest of the family that they create and really apart from the worries the individuals already have being born into this horrible world the have the added choice to make- to be miserable or not to be miserable like your parents or not?

Now yes this may be a phase i am passing through at the moment with the parents and at the endof the day i may even be the one with the problem (which is very very very possible) but like i said in my previous post...this is MY blog! :D

Now honestly speaking advise i would like to give to women that are married or itching to get married....as normal as it may seem...STOP/DONT BITCH ABOUT YOUR HUSBAND TO YOUR KIDS!!! Same goes for the men but we both know who is most likely going to nag. It doesnt help...if you have advise please give it...by all means. Please refrain from letting your kids know that you have made a mistake in marrying who you are married to and your life would have been so much better if you had married someone else or remained single...you are indirectly thinking tha the existence of your children is regrettable! Think about it.

Plus you are not making their marriages any rosier by giving them a sneak peek at how they should talk to and about their husbands....so their homes would be as messed up as yours? So they would be as miserable as you are or worse! I know its a choice one has to make but still one works with what they know and that is what springs to mind first of all... Please try to think twice before making utterances at home! Speak to your husbands and let THEM know they are being shallow minded sparrows!!

Why am i speaking to the women in particular....the mood of the woman of the house affects the entire home! Except everyone has the ability and the heart to ignore her which i doubt is possible!Gosh! And yes...this is personal!

Married fella's there is no bigger truth than this i tell you....if you act like a fool please remember the probability of your baby girls choosing someone just like you is very very high! So you would almost have no right to vex if she brings a nitwit home and claims she is in love with him. The ones you can see right through are most like you! They mirror you so you recognise them in an instant and you know what you can do so you freak out! KMT! Would now give the poor girl a hard time when is all your damn fault! Even though she hates the things you do...is ashamed of them and has to love you, look you in the face and respect you...YOUR SHIT IS WHAT SHE KNOWS! She sees it in other men and its b*** and she knows he isnt good for her but she cant help it because with you HER DAD she could and she didnt die...so somewhere in her subconscious she thinks he would love her like you do but you and i both know that aint happening...at least not like she wants it to.... Pls ask God to help you refrain from childish activities and dont think your kids dont know....they get to the age where they do undersand and dont know what to do when they realise what you are doing and tehir impression of you goes on a downward spiral but they cant express it.... BOTH OF YOU!!!!

When your kids start acting in ways foreign to you dont go on some rant about how for the life of you you cant imagine how they became that way and thats not how you brought them up....Look inwards....your actions speak waaaaaaay louder than your wise words!

I have said this before...Marriage is not for kids! If you think you are ready and you look inwards and find that you are not mature...DONT TRY IT! (well i said it in pidgin english with a few extras but you get my point still)

Now my prayer is that i use my brain and make the better choice and practice what i am preaching....but we know how

Ps. One could say from reading this post that this girl obviously needs to move out of her home.... maybe its true....maybe its not...